Boyfriend/Girlfriend/Spouse Rapport Scale
Assess Your RelationshipIt is essential that all ratings be made by you as honestly as possible. Your task is to rate your experience in terms of what is now, not what ought to be. Please consider each statement with reference to your present relationship with your parents. Mark each statement in the left margin according to the extent that it is true on your experience. Write 1, 2, 3, 4 or 5 to stand for:
1 = Never, this is never true.
2 = Seldom, this is seldom true.
3 = Occasionally, this is occasionally true.
4 = Often, this is often true.
5 = Always, this is always true.
Mark every time. Work rapidly. There is no time limit; but do not spend too much time on any one item. Mark all items according to your feelings today. Note: b/g/s stands for boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse.
____ 1. My b/g/s creates a feeling of warmth in our relationship.
____ 2. I feel secure in my relationship with my b/g/s.
____ 3. I have confidence in my b/g/s.
____ 4. My b/g/s is uncertain of him/herself in dealing with me.
____ 5. My b/g/s is artificial in his/her behavior towards me.
____ 6. My b/g/s’ tone of voice conveys the ability to share my feelings.
____ 7. My b/g/s communicates the attitude that my problems are of real importance to him/her.
____ 8. My b/g/s is a warm, sincere individual.
____ 9. I feel blocked and frustrated in my attempt to relate to my b/g/s.
____ 10. My b/g/s acts cold and distant.
____ 11. I believe that my b/g/s has a genuine desire to help me out.
____ 12. I feel accepted as an individual.
____ 13. I feel a sense of satisfaction from talking with my b/g/s.
____ 14. My b/g/s doesn’t understand me.
____ 15. I can talk freely about my innermost feelings with my b/g/s.
____ 16. My b/g/s helps me understand things better.
____ 17. I feel frustrated by me b/g/s.
____ 18. I distrust my b/g/s.
____ 19. My b/g/s is a very human person to me.
____ 20. My b/g/s has a good sense of humor.
____ 21. My b/g/s ’s tone of voice encourages me to talk.
____ 22. I feel grateful for my b/g/s ’s help.
____ 23. My b/g/s understands completely my feelings.
____ 24. My b/g/s is open , honest and genuine with me.
____ 25. My b/g/s gives the impression of feeling at ease with me.
____ 26. I believe my b/g/s doesn’t respect me as an individual.
____ 27. I am comfortable talking with my b/g/s.
____ 28. My b/g/s cooperates with me.
____ 29. My physical-sexual relationship is satisfactory with my b/g/s/
Scoring formula for the Boyfriend/Girlfriend/Spouse Rapport Scale:
A total score on the Boyfriend/Girlfriend/Spouse Rapport Scale is obtained by the following procedure. The sum of scores in the positive-stated items 1, 2, 3, 6, 7, 8, 11, 12, 13, 15, 16, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28 and 29 minus the sum of the scores in the negative-stated items 4, 5, 9, 10, 14, 17, 18 and 26. To this difference add 48 for the total score. The higher the score, the more positive your Boyfriend/Girlfriend/Spouse Rapport Scale.