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September 20, 2017

Sober Sex is Safer Sex

By Dr. Richard Boyum

The goal of educators in an educational institution is to educate. Politically it is often difficult for our institutions of higher education to accept the fact that the majority of our college students are sexually active with some frequency. Unfortunately, much of that sexual behavior occurs under the influence of alcohol. Recently I have begun working with clients to promote the idea that they can choose between alcohol and sex but not have both. I am asking them to make a written commitment for Sober Sex. I basically use the level at which one can be fine for intoxicated driving. An individual cannot drink to over .10 and be sexually active. For most of our students this means no more than one to two regular drinks the first hour and no more than one drink after. Students do realize that under the influence their sexual behavior gets them in difficulty in a number of ways. Not only is the incident of unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases increased but also it often compromises existing relationships. Alcohol is the number one precursor to each of these areas. I have been pleasantly surprised at the number of students who are willing to commit to not only not driving an automobile under the influence but also not being sexually active under the influence. Students report back they are more comfortable with their Sober Sexual Behavior and that it is not only more enjoyable but also more well-thought out. The idea of Sober Sex is something that you may want to consider promoting on your campus as well.