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December 18, 2017

Paying Attention and Showing Up

By Dr. Richard Boyum

I recently heard a discussion about what the goal of life is. Two of the things that stood out for me were that the goal in life is to pay attention and show up. I find both of these concepts to be most interesting. If one paid attention on as many levels as possible one will learn a great deal about life. Of course showing up everyday is a prerequisite for experiencing all of the wondrous opportunities that life presents to us. What I find even more interesting as a counselor, is that this is so much of what both counselor and client must do to make a counseling experience work.

So often in life for clients, people do not show up and they do not pay attention to them. On the other hand, one of the things that we do is show up and we do pay to them in many ways and on many different levels. Much of what we think of as core conditions for a good counseling experience relate to paying attention and showing up. Our ability to be fully present in the moment without judgment in reality is at the core of potentiating a growth experience for a client. By doing so we often act as a catalyst to help clients be fully recognized. (Re. Cognized) When, as counselors, we can facilitate our clients to pay attention, often solutions to their problems become readily evident. Indeed, if showing up and paying attention are core goals in life, then they are at the core of every counseling experience. We need to honor ourselves for our ability to show up and pay attention to what our clients bring to us. It is a simple but very important act.