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February 20, 2018

I See Change

By Dr. Richard Boyum

One of the ways I help students see that they are capable of changing is to ask them to, in their mind's eye or in reality, go back to different stages in their lives when photographs were taken. I ask them to look at photos of themselves as infants, toddlers, in grade school, middle school and high school. I suggest to them that change is a part of life, and that when they look at those pictures they will see that they are dressed differently to fit the circumstances. This then becomes an image, a metaphor for change today. It is part of doing something the easy way. Change is a part of life. We are constantly changing, assimilating and adapting.

And so, it is with behaviors today. We can try something new because we are in a different place and have a different set of experiences. It may be different than what we've done before, but if fact, doing something differently is part of the inevitable change process.
I often then ask clients to picture themselves as to how their lives would be better when this change technique has taken place. By tying real pictures with the images of behavioral change, one can more adequately create "seeing is believing" scenario. It becomes part of the normal human evolutionary process. See if this technique does not work for you.